When you’re in a place of not knowing what to do, this is the perfect time to turn to The One who does…….
We make a thousand decisions a day. From what to eat, to what to wear, even which way to go to work.
But, what do you do when you have to make those life altering decisions? Like the ones that have you feeling like you’re at a crossroads, and going the wrong way can have huge consequences?
I get it! I was there a few months ago when looking for a new job. To make a long story short, my position was cut from the contract I had been working on for almost 3 years. Though it frustrated me, I’m beyond grateful I work in a field, and have certain qualifications that make it easy to find a new job.
The issue was I just didn’t know which one to take. Sure, I could’ve gone with the most money, best benefits, and best commute. However, I really wanted to be led by God in this. To be real, it would be the first time I allowed God to take the lead on moves in my career.
Even though I surrendered it to God, I couldn’t get over that I didn’t know what to do. The Holy Spirit urged me to study Proverbs 3:5-6 in my quiet time one day. I was a little resistant because I could recite those verses by heart, and I thought that those two verses alone wouldn’t give me what I needed.
Boy, was I wrong! Those two verses were actually everything I needed when making this decision, and every decision from there forward.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” (NLT)
Now, let’s break these verses down how the Holy Spirit broke them down to me as a guide for making a decision:
Trust in the Lord
Trust - to rely on, believe in, depend on, surrender to, love.
This is not from the dictionary.
These were phrases that came to my head when I was studying.
To trust someone requires spending time with that person to get to know them. You wouldn’t trust someone you just met off the street with your deepest darkest secrets, would you?
No! You trust the friend that you’ve known for years, and whose proven themself to be trustworthy.
God doesn’t have to prove Himself to be trustworthy. I mean He literally keeps gravity going to keep us in place. If you can’t trust that, I don’t know what to tell you, lol!
However, we live in a sin filled world, where trust is broken on a daily basis. And, the broken trust that we experience physically and emotionally, can affect how we trust spiritually. We transfer what we’ve experienced with people on to God. Thinking He’ll break our trust just like they did. Especially, since we can’t physically see Him.
So, how do you trust God?
You spend time with Him to get to know Him!
While God knows us completely, I mean He created us! When sin entered the world, we lost the chance to know Him intimately. That was until Jesus came and died on the cross, and gave us back to the opportunity to.
It’s sad to say a lot of people think they know God. They go to church, tithe, serve, do good things, and still they don’t know God.
It’s like this: People who follow Beyonce’ on IG think they know her. In reality, they know of her.
You don’t know a person from being around them from a distance. You know them by being around them intimately. Not in a sexual way, but allowing that person to see you closely, good, bad, and the ugly.
So in getting to know God, we must be around Him in our good, bad an ugly. We take time each day, and sometimes multiple times a day, to let Him in, and in turn we learn more about Him.
How do you do that exactly?
By spending time with Him!
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The more you spend with Him, the more you’ll begin to trust Him!
With all your heart
Our heart is very important!
Think of it as a garden; whatever is planted in it, will grow!
So, what’s in your heart?
A better question maybe what, or who, is sitting on the throne of your heart?
And, whoever, or whatever, rules your heart…..rules your decisions.
Proverbs 4:23 NLT says “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”
How to guard your heart:
“Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I’m about; See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—then guide me on the road to eternal life.” (MSG)
Do Not Depend On Your Own Understanding
Anybody else a “know it all?!” *Waiting for you to raise your hand, lol!*
I used to, and still do at times, think I have all the answers.
Oh, but the way being surrendered and adulting hit me…..I found out I knew NOTHING!
I learned I cannot trust myself!
Why? Because I’ll make an impulsive decision of what I see would be best in the moment, while not always considering the long term results.
I can’t trust what I see, or what I think I know about my life!
I didn’t create me, so I don’t know enough about me to tell me where I’m going to go!
God created me! He knows me better than I know myself! He saw my life before this world was ever created!
So, He’s the best person I can go to regarding me!
Now, I know you’re saying, “Good! I don’t have to talk about my decisions with anyone any more! Just God and I alone!”
Nah, Sis! That’s not what I’m saying!
God should be the first One you go to about a decision, then going to wise godly counsel next.
I’ll use myself for an example.
I’m soon going to be moving out sometime near the end of this year.
With that, I went to God in prayer about where He wants me to go. Before, I went on an apartment tour, I prayed for peace to know which place would be my future home.
I also sought the advice of my (god)parents. They’ve brought houses, and rented apartments before, so I trust their knowledge. My mom had to kill my dream of what I want versus what’s smart financially right now. I wanted a certain look, mostly so it would take less effort for me to decorate, but that look came with a big price. She reminded me that apartment living is only temporary until I make another move to a house or condo. That’s when I can have more freedom financially to get the look I want.
In the decision making process, we must open to hearing from God, and those He’s placed above us to pour into us. While I believe friends can help in making decisions, if they’ve had experience in an area, I highly suggest having one or two godley women in your life who you can glean wisdom from as well.
We weren’t meant to do life alone, so we shouldn’t make decisions alone!
I mean most of us don’t go to food places without hearing recommendations on it.
So, we should do the same when making a big decision, and not rely 100% on ourselves.
Seek His Will In All You Do
To seek means to go after, look for, discover.
When faced with making a decision, we have to always seek God’s will above our own.
So how do you seek His will? I’m glad you asked!
First, pray about your decision.
Prayer, in a basic definition, is having a conversation with God.
You talk about the decision, God listens. God talks about the decision, you listen.
Give God time to answer! He may make you wait on the answer for some decisions.
But, what if it’s a pressing decision you ask? I got you girl, we see eye to eye!
Pray about it, then go with what you feel would please God the most!
Next, read about your decision.
Open The Bible and find passages on your specific situation, and see how God responded. Know that God never contradicts His Word. So, if the answer you believed you got doesn’t line up with His Word, you may need to go back into prayer about it.
Yeah, I know! What if your specific situation isn’t outlined in The Bible? Like, marrying a potential spouse?
Then study The Word on the qualifications of what a godly husband should be, and line them up against your potential mate.
Last, check your peace!
Do you have it? Not, feel it!
Your feelings are a horrible decision maker! I feel like eating Chick Fil A everyday, but that decision would soon catch up with me in weight, and other health problems.
Peace is simply knowing that God is in control. Not feeling He’s in control because some moments we feel that God is there, and in others we don’t.
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matthew 6:33 NLT
And, He Will Show You Which Path To Take
After you’ve trusted Him, moved out of the way, and sought Him….then God will give you the answer!
It may not be right away!
But, when it’s time, He’ll give the answer.
No matter if it’s yes or no, we’re able to accept it.
We may not like it!
But, we’ll be comforted in knowing that the path we’re about to walk on will ultimately give Him the glory!
Place the decision into His hands, Sis!
He knows the answer, just wait for Him!
Here for you,